Wednesday, 30 May 2012

Relationships and The Social Network Bug

Its finally summer(ish)!!! The sun is shining, the bugs are out and about (ewwww!), and we are free to wear less layers (phew!). After a whole year of studying, its time to take a well deserved breather. I've had this blog for ages but haven't really put anything on it. Hopefully, you all would get to see more from me! Please feel free to raise questions, answer any questions raised, comment, agree or disagree.
I'm gonna talk about 'Relationships and the Social Network'. While some people don't see it as worth talking about, many of you would wanna hear this. So I was thinking this nice, hot afternoon as I reclined in my chair facing the window for a bit of air (summer(ish)) about relationships and social networks. For a couple of decades (lets just say 5), people have been going into relationships and having the option to stay in it or leave without it being frowned on or eyebrows being raised. Before then, you pretty much married the first guy to talk to you (in most cases).  But after that, the break ups and make ups came. In the new millennium, there's this sudden boost in technology and over the past few years, social networks. From MySpace to Hi5, Facebook to (the daddy of them all) Twitter and the list goes on and on. Something we have all realised from either personal experiences or witnessing people go through it is that social networks are nowadays leading many relationships to break (trust me, its usually really nasty). I'm not being sexist or trying to back up the girls' corner but most of the time, the ladies are usually (I said usually) in the receiving end. That's how we sometimes find out "what he did last night", and you can't always hide pictures on Facebook or delete tweets on Twitter especially when there's flirting going on there (isn't Twitter a bum! hehehehehe). And the girls start going all CIA and MI6 on their man! Once an agent, always an agent. She would keep checking this things and it turns into mayhem because any little thing is up for questioning which (I bet) would lead to many fights and arguments with the guy trying to fight his own corner and prove his innocence and the girl who is sure she's right this time. At the end of the day, the relationship is left with cracks and holes in it, no trust and a girl who is stalking her man on Facebook and Twitter 24/7 (that's just stressful and time consuming). Its ridiculous the amount of break up and divorces that have Facebook mentioned somewhere in between the problems. Was watching the divorce court the other day (which by the way, Judge Toler is sooooo cool and amazing and yeah, funny and too cute) and many of the cases had "bla bla bla Facebook" or "Facebook bla bla bla" mentioned when they described when things started to go wrong. Remember, this is 'Divorce Court', not 'Break-Up Court for Boyfriends and Girlfriends'. Which means even marriages ( which involves children and all) are beginning to suffer from the social network bug. But maybe we're looking at it from just one angle. Maybe we should consider another perspective. Not all relationships suffer or end this way. There are even many that survive the whole social network bug. Are they doing something everyone isn't doing? Or are there a set of '10,000 Rules For Keeping Your Relationship When You Have Facebook And Twitter'? Or they just have two heads? Does it depend on the people (which might mean a high percentage of us are not screwed properly upstairs)?

Please feel free to answer or raise questions, comment, agree or disagree. Thanks for reading!

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